I'm mostly friends with family. At first, when the shiny gleam was still on it and it had that new facebook smell, I befriended a small group of people I had gone to high school with. And had not talked to since high school.Well, there's a reason for that.
Turns out, if you haven't talked to someone in almost 30 years, you're probably not going to enjoy getting updates all day long of what they have been doing or which dwarf they are most like according to the latest facebook poll.
The worst for me has been two people who have begun a relationship since I started my facebook. Sugar drips off the screen when those two are on. I thought only lovestruck teenagers wrote with such saccharine.
I was wrong.But my facebook is mostly fine. I don't do much on there except peek into my kids' lives without leaving any trace. Turns out that leave no trace adage is just as useful on facebook as it is in the wilderness.
My husband's facebook? Now that is a different story all together. He has a stalker.
A male stalker.This guys puts the creep in creepy. Every little thing my husband writes on there, this guy comments on. And in creepy, stalkerish ways. Things about how much our kids love their dad (he's never met our kids), what good parents we are (he's never met me), how he wants my husband to give our "beautiful daughter a hug from him".
Ewwww. And my husband wants to "defriend" this guy. Why doesn't he, you ask. And yes, that is a good question. Here's the answer. Our kids won't let him.
Turns out, they are peeking into our facebooks too. And laughing their heads off.
You have to hate a level playing field in parenting.
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No way, that one wouldn't work for me. He'd be gone, that guy....gone.
I'd have to "de-friend" him no matter what the kids said.
Yea, hugging the daughter line is over the line for me. I say tough luck kids & defriend. There's plenty of other things they'll find to laugh about at your expense.
I like your kids' sense of humor. I also think I know your husband's stalker. Or his clone. Ew. Just, ew.
I used Facebook a lot the first month or two after I signed up... not so much since then. I mostly go on to look at people's photos
I agree, I'd defriend as well. Then again, if he knows the guy then maybe it's not so bad. Err... maybe... good luck!
Good for your kids! Turnabout is fair play. :)
Every word is true! Facebook's a strange place - why do people I never talked to 20 years ago want to 'friend' me? And my realtor neighbor? She doesn't need to be my virtual friend, I never talk to her & she's 2 doors away.
De-friend the dude, the kids I'm sure will find other amusements elsewhere :)
Hi! I found your blog through another blog I frequent, and it caught my attention. Love this post - Facebook is taking over the world.
Ick.
Facebook is making me crazy lately!! Too many changes I cant figure out how to unchange.
And sorry about the creepy comments to your hubby. I'll back off.
Kidding.
Blessings!
Amanda
I'm with the rest - defriend fast. That is very creepy.
I'm on facebook, but really - I'm never on facebook. I just can't seem to find the time. And yes, all 3 of my kids are on their too.
So, the kids are rooting for the stalker for their entertainment purposes... sunds like something my kids would do.
Eeeww. Sounds creepy. I can see why the kids find it entertaining.
How strange! But does your husband add friends whom you don't really know? To me, Facebook is this huge place where no one quite knows what to do (a metaphor for life, perhaps). You just sort of hang around, look at what people are doing - usually boring stuff - and take some sort of quiz for reasons unknown and you start to question your own intelligence and ambition. Hm. Then again, it's kind of fun. I'm Maria-Thérèse Andersson afiori
if you want to add me ;)
I love facebook. I had the opposite experience reconnecting with people from HS. We were more acquaintances then but have really developed a nice friendship now. Time as a great equalizer and all... (fellow class of '80!)
We have friends who are gushy too. I mean really sickeningly gushy. And they aren't in a new relationship, they've been married 20 years. My hubs will tell me he loves me and I'll say I won't believe it till it's plastered all over my wall. And then we laugh and laugh. (oh, and that very sentence wouldn't have flown with them - it would've had to have read 'my amazing handsome husband...')
I've got nothing to say about the stalker. I probably have friends who think I comment too much...
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Your blog is great... so funny! And yes, the facebook stalker is a weird phenomenon. I have one (harmless, just odd) who barely spoke to me in school. She now comments on everything I do on there.
I don't think my mum knows what facebook is. By dad, on the other hand, is probably watching - silently.
Who do I need to sleep with to get a crazy FB stalker?
AHAHAHAHAHA that is hilarious!!!
hahaaa! look at them taking another parents advice for once! i love that you're all keeping tabs of each other on facebook, that's awesome. i actually don't have one...i'm lame like that...but yikes, that creepy stalker guy...scary!
ha! That's kind of funny that your kids don't want him to defriend the guy.
I personally love Facebook. It's a great way to people watch, without leaving a trace, unless you wanna. But good lord, they announce your EVERY move these days. Which is kind of annoying.
A couple tricks: If you're annoyed to no end with someone, but don't want to delete them, b/c maybe they'll notice, just hide them. Hover to the right of one of their status updates, and a drop down menu will appear. Click hide, and they will never show up again!! You can also do the same thing for all of those stupid applications like Farmtown & crap. It's heaven!! :)
Well by all means, if the kids are getting entertainment out of the creepy stalker guy, keep him! Entertainment is hard to come by these days. :)
hmmm... so where do your kids get their sense of humor, eh? :D
Plus-if he defriends him it's gonna freak the guy out and he'll just stalk him more! Weird.
I had my first un-friend moment this weekend. For me, it was the same girl who was my sometime-stalker in HS. She tried to "friend" me, and when I ignored it, she had another "friend" ask me why I wouldn't "friend" the first "friend". So I UN-"friended" the one I shouldn't have ever "friended" in the first place, ignored the wannabe "friend", and never looked back!
Oh my gosh this sounds like my family of facebookers - that is kinda creepy though - so glad we don't have that particular kind of a 'friend'.
LOL!
I started a Facebook a couple of months ago -- it took over my life for the first few days!! I'm just now starting to get the hang of it.
Hahaha! I hate facebook. But I do use it to check on the kids once in awhile.
One small problem. Our son refused to "friend" us.
What the --
(Yeah, it screams trouble.)
Too funny. You know what your husband could do though? He could set his privacy settings so only that guy can't see his updates. Might piss off your kids, but just an idea.
I actually love facebook and have had LOTS of fun reconnecting with old friends and such. But yeah, that friend of your husbands sounds creepy. I second Christy's plan to block what he can view on your husband's profile. That's what I've done with my in-laws. :)
Thanks for stopping by my blog today! I must say everyone of you have a great sense of humor. As for the stalker...wish him back to the cornfield....lol lol if you ever saw the old twilight movies when the little boy would wish everyone he didn't like back to the cornfield that's what he should do. But seriously de-friend him fast!
Have a bless day!
Ha. Crazy. I've de-friended a couple of people, and definitely would get rid of the husband's friend who is creepy, although it does sound pretty funny.
I love facebook. I went to boarding school, the students were from all corners of the world. It was difficult to keep in touch.
There are a handful of people I've been so happy to be in touch with.
The geeky kid from 7th grade is still trying to be my best friend though. This time around, I'm letting him. It's so nice to be mature :)
I was going to say i'd hate to have a facebook stalker but some of my friends probably think i am one. LOL But not in a weird way... really.
Seriously, people can get way too much info on facebook these days and there are too many nutcases out there. I think the kids are wrong here and you need to lose this guy...
Its a sad day when you become your kids source of entertainment
Lawd Vodka Mom was just talking about stalkers!
So far, I've been lucky with no weirdness -- had enough of that growing up and some later....
People can and will be strange...very very strange.
I had a mad romance with Facebook when I first started but barely go on now...I don't have the time. Honestly it was just too much information about people that if I really cared about, I'd talk to them and see them.
It felt a bit like an ego machine...
Creepy creep has got to go.
much love
I signed up for Facebook as soon as it was open to non-students. Then didn't do a thing for a while. But our daughter kept nagging me to check out this or check out that, so I started using it.
It is a great way to keep up with the kids, se the first pics of grandbabies, keep in touch with my side of the family and some friends, too.
I did the friending with a bunch of high school friends, but really am only anxious to keep up with one. She was my best friend in 6, 7, 8 and 9th grades, then we weren't friends. I could never remember why and neither could I. We got back together and she apologized for "dumping" me all those years ago because of her boyfriend. She was sad for all the years we missed out on. I am thrilled for all the ones we have ahead.
Oh, and my hubby's ex-wife friended me! I had to accept, so she wouldn't be able to tell the kids I was a...well, you know.
My hubby loves FB, and he frequently takes over our computer so that he can check his! I'm less excited about it. It was fun at first, but I have more fun blogging (and stalking all of your amazing blogs!!!) My 10-year-old wants an account and I've put my foot down on that one for now. No way, no how!
lol. Facebook is a great thing, and I'm always amused by the creepy stalker types. A and I have one too...he only comments when we mention each other in our stat, or on pics of the two of us. We're not sure which one of us he has the hots for...
I too love facebook for the "leave no trace" peaking I can do into my highschool and college age kids. Hmm... never asked if they peak in on me..
HAHAHAHAHA. I love the power your kids have over your (fabulous) husband (who's such a great dad, obviously.)
(Be sure and give those kids a hug from me.)
Oops..did I just blow my cover?
Ewww creepy! My kids aren't on Facebook yet, but I'm not sure I'm looking forward to it.
This is why I've avoided Facebook.
That's hilarious!! I'm on Facebook too (hubby and I just started last summer, too). It's quite crazy what you read sometimes... I hide ALL of those quizzes and polls. Ugh, can't stand them junking up my wall, haha. I would have to defriend that guy too, that daughter comment was just a little too over the top. Wow. That's scary.
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so the apple didn't fall too far from the tree, huh?
i was one of those darned if i do/don't situations when nosey rosey at work wanted to friend me. if i ignored it i'm sure i would get hounded by her. then again do i want her snooping?
Your kids are amusing, but I think I would have to defriend him as well! I guess we have a third generation family on Facebook, my parents who are divorced, me, and also my 15 year old daughter!
Hah :) My dad loves facebook- every so often he'll leave a comment on my little sister's angst-ridden status posts, or to call my brother out as a dork for posting his car crash on facebook but never bothering to call his parents and tell them...just keeps us on our toes ;o)
Nice thing about de-friending, is that other person is never notified. They just don't get your updates anymore :) It's come in handy!
I would drop that guy fast!
See, you'd probably hate me on facebook too. I don't talk...I just kill people on mafiawars all the time.
I swear by it for stress release.
ha. i find that sometimes i prefer to read updates from people i don't hear from often/ever. ultimately it comes down to how good of a facebooker someone is. some people - whether close friends, or long lost high school buddies - seem to genuinely think i want to know which rock star they were in their former lives, or what color their aura is. i don't.
De-friend him. For sure.
I recently rekindled a friendship with my best friend from high school after "meeting" again on fb. It didn't end well. Come to think of it, it didn't end well in high school, either. I thought we were both more mature now. I guess not. (Fun post!)
I've been lucky enough to avoid stalkers on Facebook...so far. I would definitely have to de-friend that weirdo!
I got a facebook about a year ago. For a while I was on it all the time. I found my really close college friends and it was fun to catch up with them. But after the intial behind the scenes "what have you been doing for the past 22 years?" - I just wasn't all that interested in what they had for breakfast or what their plans were for the day. Not to mention what Disney Princess they are. I rarely look at it anymore. Though I'm sure when my daughter goes to college next year I will use it much more. (I just hope she doesn't defriend me.)
Creepy. No doubt about it.
Wholly crap; I'm from the class of '80!!! We should be facebook friends for sure.
I totally get you on the sugary sweet stuff...every comment I leave is purposely obscure and no one knows if I'm a nice person or not. I have no idea myself.
I love this post more than you can ever imagine. Call me.
YUCK! D-Friend him! Facebook is too TMI and TMW (too much work) for me. But, I did give it an honest try :)
My kids are too young for facebook...thank goodness! They would have a heyday with the crap that goes on with my "stalkers"
I like facebook. But that "friend" of your hubby's? Ewww.
I love facebook. I had a stalker for a while and I didn't defriend him either. He had my phone number and I didn't want him to call me. He would want to chat each time I was online. I think someone must have reported him because there is no trace of him now. Thank goodness. I think I'd defriend your hubby's stalker..... just sayin' LOL!
eew i would totally unfriend that guy, he sounds gross.
as for the old people in love...eww thats gross too, LOL
just kidding.
sort of.
I am also old so I can say that. LOL!
why havent you friended me on facebook then? hmph!
(LOL)
HA! You have raised evil children. Buwaah-ah-ah!
:))
My husband and I recently de-friended a lady from our former hometown. Didn't know her really well to begin with, but we're pretty sure she's gone off her meds. Seriously. Writing bizarre, bordering on obscene things. But being facebook novices, it took most of a day and a flurry of e-mails with our I.T. son before we figured out how to actually de-friend. lol
Good lesson though. Just as in real life, we need to be careful who we associate with online too.
Oops, hope that doesn't mean you're going to start blocking me from your blog :-)
Too funny! I just got signed up for facebook about a month ago and only because my kids and siblings had been harrassing me to join for over a year. I don't get to spend a lot of time on there but it's been kinda fun keeping up with my kids and seeing pictures of my grandchildren. This thing with your husband having a stalker is something I could so see happening to me and could see my kids being quite amuzed over it.
Leave no trace is a must. Its like when your kids are talking in the backseat, you just pretend not to hear anything. . . thats how you get a lot more information :)
I spent a great afternoon a few weeks back drinking wine and deleting weirdos from my facebook friends list. Didn't like you in highschool...delete...don't like you now...delete...random stranger...delete
Bliss
I'd totally defriend too. To be honest, I'm crappy at the facebook. I log in once every couple of months.
Your kids are so funny. That being said he should dump the stalker.
wow..teenagers!! i guess i will have to revive my Facebook interest when my girls grow up..
I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. Mine is usually deactivated.... Unless I want to peek in on the family teens :-)
xo
All three of my kids now are on Facebook -so am I. I like it because of the ease in loading pictures I can then share with a few other family members -cousins, their children, mainly -helps keep a little bit of contact going between cousins on my Dad's side that I don't know all that well along with contact with some on my Mom's side too. (Good for family tree stuff, ya know.) The one thing I dislike -immensely -though are the games -Mafia Wars, that people participate in and are constantly posting crapola about that stuff, using up tons of valuable space! I have a lot of people on my "friends" list though who are actually friends of my kids but some of them, I know almost as well as I know my own kids so I do enjoy communicating with them a bit. My older daughter and son don't post much on FB but younger daughter camps in front of the computer, hogging up all the time there so I end up getting way, way behind in doing my blog reading. Need a second computer -one for her and one for me but no moola even close to coming my way to make a purchase like that! RATS!
I love Facebook, but yeah, I really dont need to know what people I haven't seen in twenty years are having for breakfast! Oh, and creepy stalker dude sounds like he has poor boundaries, oy.
gone. he'd be GONE.
and i lurk on my daughter's page (it's a rule -- as soon as she unfriends me, i shut down her account).
but mostly i get a kick out of looking at my older son's stuff. he wouldn't "friend" me, but he apparently hasn't figured out that if he doesn't lock down his privacy settings, i can look anyway.
bwahahahahahahahaahaa!!!!
Eeek! Im glad I dont have a facebook stalker...yet. But Im kinda a facebook snob. I love the fact that people dont know if reject their friend request. I recently had a high school bully send me a friends request. I was shocked. Man did it feel good to hit that "ignore" button.
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Love the way your Facebook is entertainment for the kids... But I'd de-friend that creepy guy anyway... There are plenty more ways you can trip yourselves up and provide laughter for those kids of yours! ;-)
Love the way your Facebook is entertainment for the kids... But I'd de-friend that creepy guy anyway... There are plenty more ways you can trip yourselves up and provide laughter for those kids of yours! ;-)
My boys have not facebooked yet. They are always behind on the cool curve. I would be surprised if they ever had one. I had to suggest a gaming system for christmas when my oldest was around 11 years old. Everyone else already had one. I suggested the facebook, but I am not going to set it up for him like I did by getting the game system for christmas.
Both boys will have to figure it out on their own which means taking a break from watching discovery channel and playing silly short online games.
LOL, Are you sure your husband doesn't know him from highschool or something? I'd probably have to defriend, its a little weird, but kinda funny that your kids are watching you guys now and think he's funny! :) thanks for stopping by on my blog! Love your blog and will be following:)
Give your "beautiful daughter a hug from him"!?! WTF? That creeped me out big time. I hope the guy isn't your husband's boss because that would be quite the icky pickle, don't you think? Now, I'm off to clean up my FB account because your post just gave me the heeby-jeebies. - G
I just started my Facebook page, and yes, I too spy on my kids. It took me busting into my younger daughter's Facebook and accepting my friend invite, because she wouldn't do it...she didn't want me creeping - lol
This is another way for me to waste time...I play way too much Sorority Life and I don't know why.
FB is kind of driving me nuts right now with their new 'improvements.' But, I guess they can't please everyone. My extended family is all on FB too - including my 87 year old Grandmother. That makes things a bit interesting sometimes ;)
Thanks for stopping by my blog! Have a great day!
You know what they say...the family that facebooks together stays together.
Facebook scares me.
I think Mark Zuckerberg is right and said it best,
"But one thing is certain, and it’s that I’m a jerk for making this site. Oh well. Someone had to do it eventually ... "
I hate the fact that its apps try to take over everything.
Okay so my mom read my Popular post on Facebook and she sent a message saying "That's it, you are an alien, not an offspring!" Isn't that nice? She did add that she was kidding, but still! (for some reason all of my blog post gets added as a "note" on my facebook account!)
Ewww, no stalkers, no no no!
Cameron
www.conquerthemonkey.com
I was getting so many FB request from classmates that I rarely had anything to do with them.. it was cluttering up my updates on people I am close to... eventually I unfriended them. Not to be rude, but gosh, I wasn't reconnecting to them, so why read about what they are doing EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY (some people really are like that).
The stalker guy is a bit freaky! At least your kids are laughing over it.
Drop the stalker friend! Thanks for stopping by today=)
Oh if it were me he would be gone. I have not jumped into face book yet. I know I should but I just don't want something else to keep up with. Bolgging, twitter, and email are enough for me. LOL
He is a creepy bromance type of stalker. UGH.
The kids will find other things to laugh at soon..hopefully not you two. LOL.
Although I am on FB, I never really got into it like my kids did. And I feel awful ignoring my husbands creepy cousins but I have to do it!
Hee hee!!! Kids like keeping tabs on parents as much as we like keeping tabs on them. I keep tabs on my 62 y/o mom this way as well!
I would update my status asking if anyone else finds facebook status stalkers creepy... maybe this guy will get the hint?
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Maybe I will see you on facebook.
That stalker sounds creepy! I say defriend right away...
You're entertaining your kids! LOVE it!
My SIL;s mom calls it the facebook alert system. Whenever she can't find one of us, she heads to facebook to track us down!
LOL! I'm am facebook obsessed! I love being able to catch a glimpse into people's lives and see what family and friends are up to with just a click. But I would not call myself a stalker! CREEP-O! Some people really do need to find a life outside of facebook! And I feel you on the friends from high school thing. Did you know you can hide some people and things from your news feed? Hover over the top right corner of their update and click the hide button. Wa'la, their stupid lovey comments are gone!
Abort!!! Defriend immediately!!!! Please. You must!!!
That is so funny : ).
My Daddy loves facebook so much. It makes me laugh. He likes to comment on peoples status' but I am going to warn him NEVER to turn into a stalker : )
And you know what, don't people come here every day and tell you what a great mother you are? : ) Oh yes we do. And we have never met you either.
We are all a little bit stalkerish I think!
Oh funny. My oldest just got her own facebook account (after I got tired of letting her sign into mine to play games.) I will remember your sage advice!
I can only imagine when my kids get old enough!
Some of my old high school friends still act like they're IN high school. It's obnoxious. Yes, you're right, there is a reason I haven't talked to them in 15 years. I'm kind of afraid to de-friend people - like they're going to put nasty stuff up on other people's walls. Geez, I guess in this way, I'M acting like I'm still in high school.
Ewww. Seriously, with facebook (to which I, too, belong) we've found a way to be voyeurs and have it be socially acceptable. Your kids are funny.
***Ally
That is too funny!
(But not the stalker...ick.)
And when I joined Facebook, I was totally excited for about 2 weeks ... then it was kind of boring. Then I found blogging and that was all she wrote. Though I still keep it ... so I can peek in at others on occasion.
I didn't know it was wrong to leave those kinds of comments. Sorry. I'll stop.
i don't 'facebook'--i am in touch with the people from high school that i still want to speak with! :)
my hubby does use it but after a few 'get-togethers' with groups of high school friends, he sees that it's a bit like trying to recapture the glory days...20 years down the road. they only have the past in common and it gets old quickly.
about the stalker, i'd defriend for sure...i wouldn't want anyone looking at my kids with a leering eye.
Ah the family that facebooks together... Nope, I've got nothing. Too much wine. And probably not a good time to stalk people I barely know on FB - I might feel compelled to get sappy and scare them into de-friending me.
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I just deleted my FB account. It got to be too much.
Don't even get me started on the whole facebook thing. Virtual rejection - so sad.
Ha! The kids turned it on you, eh? Clever kids. :)
There IS a reason for not communicating for 30 years, and Facebook brings that all back home, minus the pimples.
Facebook has been great for family peaks. However, I have started to defriend some high school people who never comment or interact with me. It does feel stalkerish at times.
Be careful with that guy. Your hubby might have to defriend despite what the kids want. He sounds too creepy.
I'm also new to Facebook. I got started with Facebook in Aug. I agree about the stalker. He's really creepy. Your husband should delete him. Thanks for stopping by my blog.
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