He scheduled the birth for February 13. When I was able to talk to my husband in the navy in Saudi Arabia to tell him the good news, his first response was, "Great. I'm glad their birthday won't be on Valentine's Day. That way we'll always get to celebrate Valentine's Day and their birthday separately."
That sounded like it made sense to me. Of course, once two kids were dropped into our lives, and then eventually two more, no further celebrations of Valentine's Day occurred for us. Unless you count me helping to glue construction paper to the outside of shoe boxes for the kids to bring their valentines home from school in. Somehow, Valentine's Day still got lost in the daily focus of the family.
Which was fine with me. I'm not really a romantic or sentimental woman. I would honestly be furious at my husband if he spent good money on expensive flowers. I'd rather have a new skillet or something practical. Yes, I'm that kind of woman.
Their birthday never interfered with Valentine's Day. However, now they are away at college and guess what.Valentine's Day interferes with their birthday.
Yes. Somehow it never occurred to me that once they were away and had a boyfriend and girlfriend, I'd have to fight for the right to see my offspring on their birthday. Did these significant others carry my kids' 12+ pounds around inside them for what seemed like 5 years? I think not. You guess they have one single stretch mark or scar from those 9 months? I don't think so either. Any chance they breastfed those two forever like I did? Likely story.
I had their feet, elbows, butts, and heads pressed all around my vital organs for 9 months. I hate to play the mother card, but I think I win.
And I do. For the time being. After all, I'm still paying for college.
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Yay Mom !
My hubby does spend that crazy amount of $$ on flowers every single year. I have to say it makes me feel super special - like I am his girlfriend and not his wife of 9 years.
Besides, I like to choose my skillets myself ! :)
Happy Valentines/Twins Birthday To you !
I'm with you on the non-sentimental part.
One thing I read a long time ago was that kids tend to forget that mom is part of their birthday. Our society celebrates birthday's like the kid did something special - and forgets that it was all mom's doing.
So if they are in college and have not yet realized that their birthday was as much about mom as it was about them - too late to change it now.
Might as well get used to it.
Well first, I admire you very much for having been a pregnant military wife, who was in bed for so long with an overseas husband. You rock!
And I think we absolutely have the right to play the mother card. You hold that sucker high, Debbie.
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I think the "Mother Card" is like the ace of hearts, so you are the winner.
I am so NOT the skillet girl...Dr. hubby knows that there will be evil glares if he buys me something for household duties.
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Our anniversary is October 30th. Many years around here, trick or treat is on October 30th. We haven't celebrated an anniversary on the actual day in YEARS. And, I'm with you - the Evil Twin knows if he comes around with flowers, something corny, cheap jewelry, etc., I will be furious.
If he brings home a front loading washer and dryer combo? He's golden!
HA! Oh dear, yes you do win...
And enjoy your Valentine's Day
Happy Friday! Cute post. Two of my friends from high school are brother/sister twins and they were born ON Valentine's day. We are celebrating their 30th birthday tonight, which was nice of them to schedule it tonight and not actually on the 14th. :) Come visit me!
I think you win hands down! Hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Mom wins!!! Yes! I still remind mine that I changed their poopy diapers and that trumps all. I was also vomited and peed on--again and again, that should count for something, right?
I am not a big fan of Valentine's Day. Feels like a fake holiday to me. I get the appeal when you are six but past that I think there are better and more meaningful ways to show love for your spouse, mother, father and children.
Happy birthday to your twins!
I think you have total right to pull the mom card here! :)
Have a wonderful weekend spent with the fam! :)
Chalk one up for Mom!
Congrats on the win this year. My birthday is the day after Christmas & my Mom & Grandma did a great job as a child with never combining the two. They always had separate gifts, cards, cake.
Then I grew up. Now my birthday is an after thought and quite honestly it's a good year if 1 person other than my best girlfriend even tells me Happy Birthday.
I hope that they find a love interest that can manage to make both days special for them.
I agree play the mother card.
My friend had a baby a few days ago, and she did NOT want to have him on Valentine's. I didn't think it was that big of a deal, but now I understand!
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very nice post Debby, happy valentines day when it comes :)
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Oh, I wish I could tell you that they'll change and keep Mom and Dad on their dance card in the future. It gets worse, much worse. Just be there when and if they knock on the door. Be there and be the same for them. They're changing in their relationships; you can't. You will always worry about them.
Debbie, you totally rocked having surv ived twins til they're in college! You earned the right to play that mother card!!
Hey, how'd you get hold of that picture of me?
Valentines day is such a Hallmark holiday anyway. I agree with the useful rather than sentimental. I say birthday celebration and putting your foot down as the mom, especially since they are in college, is the right thing to do.
Every now and then that Mother Card truly is the Ace in The Hole.
Well played. Their birthdays really do belong to us don't they?
I hope the mom card always trumps. At least that's what I'm banking on. Enjoy celebrating the birthdays!
You go! They will eventually come back, you know that...
As it should be! You go girl.
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Lol! Go mommy go!
I remember being in college and not thinking that seeing my parents on my bday was a big deal. I had better things to do! ha ha ha. But that only last a couple of years and then it was back to spending it with fam and the BF. This is just temporary, I'm sure.
Ha. I'm still paying for college. that's like the ultimate touche...!
And good point after 3 kids we don't know what Valentine's is either...
You come up Aces mom!! You are the winner for sure!! And I like to get flowers too! If he brought home a skillet I would bean him with it! LOL! Not that time of girl!
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Go MOM!
Yep, you've earned the rite to play the Mother Card! The Mother Card trumps.....everything!
Happy birthday to your semi~adult twins.
God bless ya'll and have a wonderful Valentine's Day!!!
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I trained my husband decades ago to plant me perennial gardens, not to buy me flowers that will die in a few days.
And I'm practical too. Last year for my birthday I asked for an antique calf training yoke....and I got it.
Sona (above) is right. Mothers should get honored on the birthdays of their off-spring. I'd never thought about it before.
Happy Twin Birthday, Debbie...and many, many more!!!
Yep, you win! For now. And I can only dream of looking as good as the gal in that last photo... :(
Well, I for one, still LOVE to get a few Roses with some baby's breath and greens - very simple but beautiful! No Appliances here ~ Pleeezzzzeee! (Honey - are you listening??!) :)
You have the right to see your babies!
ditto on the non-romantic; overpriced flowers are not my thing
Keep that 'mother card' in your pocket for as long as you can!
Of course, Mommy trumps EVERYTHING!!
I definitely throw around the mom card & I'm a new mom!!
We aren't terribly mushy when it comes to VDay & I'd rather much have some new serving dishes, but I do have my eye on Vera Bradley bag that I'd like ;-)
My son was born on a holiday, too. Groundhog Day. Somehow I don't think I'll have to fight his future girlfriend for dibs. ;0)
I am with you - you win so long as you are still supporting some of their bills!
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hahaha, the guilt trip always works! :) Love it!
The mother card works like a charm.
So far.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Sweet dreams.
Oh, those ungrateful wretches!
I'm not much of a Valentine's person either. Seems like a holiday meant for kids and candy.
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My birthday is Halloween, I always hated that my birthday got swallowed by Halloween stuff.SO, I claimed the whole month! Now I celebrate Month O Jessica.
It was fun in my college years because no one had kids. Now everyone has kids, so my birthday is back to second fiddle. When I was young enough to trick-or-treat, my friends would be angrily waiting for me to finish family bday so we could get candy.
My daughter was in born October as well and my husband insists I have to share MY Month. I give her until her birthday on the 10th, and then I take over again. LOL Come and see me again!
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I think you win too!
My middle daughter was born on Valentines day. So - we celebrated a birthday for years and put Valentines Day on the back burner. Now that she is older, we go out on Valentines day again!
Kids are like that huh. They leave home for college and suddenly they are so busy they have to pencil us in for an appointment to see them. I'm all for letting them go but does it have to happen so quickly?? Happy Birthday to the twins and Happy Valentines Day to you and your husband!
The Mother Card? Durn...my deck didn't come with one of those!
But your story reminds me of a story one of my middle son's recent comments about his baby brother's pending birth: "Hey Jake, guess what? They're gonna bring Momma in and seduce her Monday!" Yeah.....
My husband is completely unaware there is even such a thing, so I get to pick my own V-Day gifts ;)
Works out pretty good.
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You go mom!
The pig photo was perfect. lol
That was cute and sounds like you have control of that situation. lol
The mother card should ALWAYS win!
HaHa.
Happy birthday to the twins....moms rule!!
I am going to bookmark this blog so that when my son is born I and doesn't want to come home for his birthday I can have him read it. I am due the day before Mother's day this year so I feel like we have the same situation. :)
Playing the mommy card..way to go
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Awesome post!!!! I always tell Andy to get me fake flowers! I love that first pic...hilarious.
Use the mom card whenever you can play it! Visiting you from Friday Follow. Happy Valentine's Day and Happy Blogging!
You're fighting a losing battle.
Yay for mum trumping boy/girlfriend...
AS always, a hysterically funny read!
rotfl. Try laughing quietly. I'm trying not to wake up the others. I guess you don't have to worry about them interrupting the day before Valentines either.lol
I agree! Moms win!! Or...at least they should!
I agree completely! And I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only woman unsentimental about everyone's favorite Hallmark holiday. Maybe it's a twin mom thing.
I'd be playing the mother card too. haha :) I'm not an expensive flowers kind of gal either. Give me an everyday bouquet from the grocery store for $5.99. I hope you all enjoy the day tomorrow!
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Yeah, you totally win...hands down!
I try to play it non-sentimental...but deep down I really want a giant heart-shaped box of high-quality chocolate!
Even though you have memories of knee- and elbow-pains, I hope you have a wonderful Valentine's. Hope you receive something terribly practical.
I could not agree more! Great post, thanks for stopping by my site from Friday Follow! I love your site, off to read more!
Going back 30 years to when I was married, I'd have been happy if I'd even received a silly little card on Valentine's Day! The ex was not one for sentiment and certainly not for gifts either. As to the kids -one lives with me (or I live with her and her family -whatever), another lives about five miles away and the third lives 45 miles from me -no great distances so you'd think I'd have no problems seeing them wouldn't you? Wrong! It seems I need to schedule an appointment for a visit from the one who lives 5 miles from me! ARRGH. Kids!
I'm with you on the practical gifts! I'd take kitchen gadgets over flowers any day!
Where is the "like" button? LOL! Yep, the mom card definitely trumps all. And give me a good power tool over roses any day. The chocolates, well that's another story. But just one of those big $1.50 Hershey bars does me just fine.
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Hi just found your blog! Love it! And you are totally right to pull the mom card on this one LOL
Have a Happy V-Day
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Yes, yes. I am living this same life. The only time flowers were remotely interesting for me was when I worked in a doctors office and ALL the girls got them...except me -- and THEY made a big deal out of it. Otherwise I never even noticed.
My valentine to my son this year was a $20 spot...to make sure he takes his lady out! LOL!
!!!! You tell 'em... and dont forget ALL THE DETAIL. x
You are so right. I've had to get used to my kids being far away from me on their birthdays, or they're off celebrating with their Sig-O. But I agree, it's as much a celebration of life to you as it is to them. And now that I think about it, I should have FIVE birthdays a year! Mine, plus the four rugrats I gave life to. Of course, that means I'll have three birthdays in the spring and two in September. I'm gonna get tired of cake.
I know. I can't believe I just said that either.
Wow, very cute! I would fight for my right to see them too!!!
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I think you have a right to your kids on their birthday. Really, I think we should be honored on our kids birthdays...not the other way around. I'm sorry they don't see it that way.
Mom's should come first. Someday they will understand.
Chalk one up for Team Mom! They definitely owe you one or a million! I'm with you on the flowers thing, I can think of a much better way to spend $50 or more than on flowers that will only make it through the week! Now chocolate that's a whole 'nother story! :) Happy Valentine's Day to you and Happy Birthday to your twins!
Oh, I love that your husband said that! How sweet!
Winner!! :p
Here I am doing so much "homework" and I am laughing really hard haha THis is great!! 1 point for Team Mom for sure. Happy Valentines Day to you! xx
Happy Birthday to your Twinkies!!! Just curious: why were you on bedrest for 5 months?
I too was on bedrest for 5 months...We sold/bought a house and moved during that time as well. That was the easiest move I ever made. :)
Your husband is definitely a keeper...So sweet!
Like you, I had a little input into scheduling the arrival date. Boy was I sneaky, really sneaky. Scheduled Mr. M's birthday to coincide with Mother's Day. But he's young yet. We'll see if my diabolical plan works when he's grown.
Happy V day and b'day to your twins!
Oooo I'm going to have to remember that paying for college card. Unless they get scholarships. Then I'll be thrilled to wave and go cuddle with my passbook.
And the teapot I got from my husband for Valentine's Day? Totally worked for me!
That is great. I had a c-section with my daughter and they said I could have her on the 27th or the 28th. I chose the 27th because the 28th was our one year wedding anniversary. I didn't want her to feel left out if we wanted to do something on our anniversary...but we never do anything so it doesn't matter anyways. Maybe when she is in college!
I'm with ya on this one, but the funniest thing? I get so confused by all these new acronyms - seems there's one for everything - LOL, ROTFLMAO, OH, DD, WTF, IMHO, and my personal idiotic favorite, IBN (I'm Buck Naked) - so when I came across OB in your post I scrunched my eyes and said aloud, "OB...OB?...What in the world is OB?"
DUH!
Hubby's kids are in their 40s and we still get to celebrate their birthdays with them.... if we buy dinner :-)
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Parker's birthday is close to St. Patrick's Day...Autumn's is close to Thanksgiving. But I'm not worried. Yet. ;)
Maybe one of these days Parker and I will be drinking green lager together.
'Which was fine with me. I'm not really a romantic or sentimental woman. I would honestly be furious at my husband if he spent good money on expensive flowers. I'd rather have a new skillet or something practical. Yes, I'm that kind of woman.'
I was furious at my husband about that and guess what....he doesn't buy me flowers anymore lol.
now i know why parents buy their kids everything...guess my mum & dad missed out on that one!
I like for my husband and I to do something special. Not in particularly flowers...if we just go out to dinner or rent a movie to watch after the kids are in bed I am good!!
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